Becoming a father changes people in different ways. I’m not sure I have ever heard anyone say the same thing about how it changed them. The day Ava entered my life I changed. She immediately made me a better person. She uncovered a new place in my heart, a place only a father can know. When she smiles, laughs, or cries, it just goes through the complications of the day and instills what she is feeling straight into my heart. She simply draws me near.
The Binh came along. We planned for him in a similar way and he came with his own set of surprises. He has taught me patients and understanding. Char and I spent time learning how he was initially shaped and how to best meet his needs with our toolbox. He has really blossomed over the last 6 months. It took a little time to realize that unique depth of love that comes raising a child but it came. He has done something that defies rational thinking, exponentially increased the size of my heart and joy. Most engineers hate the whole greater than the sum of its parts saying. However, in matters of the heart, this seems to be true.