After reading what Michelle wrote regarding her experience with “nice racism” and her little girl I felt there was another aspect. We have a beautiful biological girl that most cannot resist commenting about. However, more often than not they fail to even mention the little boy I am holding. I feel like adopted boys and girls are treated differently. I thought about this just last week while Char and I were running around L-A searching for a home. A lady walked into the real estate office and cooed over Ava but then had no idea how to handle commenting on Binh, both which were on the floor in the same vicinity. I wonder, what is going through their mind? Is it a look of confusion, judgement, something else. Some things I think I know about the look and the thought process behind the eyes: it is race related and ignorance related. I feel this way because I have the context of a beautiful, smart, blond haired, blue eyed biological girl.
I cant allow such external ignorant reactions to change my actions. It is so important to get educated and especially comfortable with these situations. My son deserves better than this.
Sorry to use a picture from a previous post but hey, I think it illustrates my point. How does that little face not inspire a reaction.