I have been derelict in my posting duties. My Thesis is due next week so all my effort has been in that direction. I have most of it done and should be able to coast thru the last 25 pages or so.
When we first got Binh, I was not immediately “in love” with him. It was more like a fascination. All effort was spent learning how to go about meeting his basic needs. Binh is a quick study and adjusted very fast. Now it’s time to focus more on loving him and building confidence. We have a biological daughter; I know how to do that right… I initially tried to love / hold / cuddle Binh like Ava but that was more than he could handle. An analogy can be drawn with toys. We tried to give Binh a simple toy just after we got him but he was more interested in a clear plastic cup. Loving a child from an orphanage is a little like that. Binh just needs to be held, no complications, no fancy toys… I had it wrong, it’s my responsibility to teach him what love is and I now think that means starting with the plastic cup….
Binh likes playing pee-pie, we managed to catch him playing the other day. What a blessing!